Love of My Life - Runner Up
I came across a blog the other day - thanks to one of my readers - and it's definitely lit something inside of me.
The topic is having a "Backup-Husband"
Now let me clarify. This is not in the if my marriage fails I have someone to fall back on and jump right into another relationship. This is more in the sense that "I become an old spinster and to make sure I don't die alone" backup spouse.
Maybe because I'm 1 1/2 hears from being thirty and recently finding myself single (again).
Maybe because more and more of my friends are getting married and having babies (in many cases baby #2 and #3).
But the idea of never meeting "the one" (or worse having let "the one" get away) and needing/wanting a "back up" scares me.
Not so much I lose sleep at night. Or am going to be calling my ex-boyfriends and single guy friends asking them to be my backup husband. (Although, yes, I have thought about and know who I'd ask if I ever find myself in need of back up sperm...but that's a different blog).
Something about having a back up husband just makes me feel worse (about myself) than thinking I'll never meet "Mr Right". I want to spend my life with my best friend but I don't want that best friend to be coerced into being with me.
I don't think I would ever want to be someones back up any more than ask someone to be mine. I'd feel second hand. Like your permanent doormat. If we don't want to be together now why would we want to be together in ten or twenty years?
However, my best friend (of about 20 years) and I have had a plan for years that when we're old and tired of our husbands we'll "suddenly become widowed" (*wink wink*) and then move in together to raise pug dogs.
Now that's my idea of a "backup spouse"!!
But I'd like to know what other people think of this idea. Am I alone in feeling that I'd be settling for 2nd best (or that I'd be someones 2nd best).