Should Have and Should Know
So recently I came across and article called Turning 30: 30 Things Every Woman Should Have or Should Know. Now some of them I'm on board with....and then others...I don't know. As someone who is nine months away from the "Big 3-0" I think I learned these a loooooooooooong time ago and then some I honestly don't know if I'll "learn" or "have" in the next 9-months.
By 30, you should have ...
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come. Hm? Well I definitely have
more than one old boyfriend that reminds me of how far I've come. As for the one I'd go back to...does the current BF count? We broke up for a few months and then got back together. Other than him, I really don't see or can't imagine going back to any others. Eek!
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family. Define "decent"? No, actually I'd consider my dining table pretty decent (thank you Target) and I bought it new when I first moved out on my own.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour. Duh! You bettcha!!
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying. All of them.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond. If it's referring to feeling like life now is better than in my "youth". Sure. If this means not trying to relive the past and hold onto what no longer exists. Sure.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age. I don't necessarily agree with this. First why does it have to be a "juicy" past. Shouldn't the fun be ahead of me still? Sure there are things I wouldn't/don't do now that I have in the past but I wouldn't call it "juicy"...
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age -- and some money set aside to help fund it. Well when I started this job I did sign up for a 401k but other than that I'm
AWFUL not the best with setting aside money. But I'm working on it.
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account -- all of which nobody has access to but you. I feel like this should have been learned looooong before you turn 30. How about "an email address and a voice mailbox" that are "you" enough to be unique but professional enough to have your dream job call/email you. (i.e., a non 'email@example.com)
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded. Again. I don't agree (completely) with this. Yes, by the age of 30 you shouldn't still be including the summer in highschool you babysat for your neighbors but "padding" isn't a bad thing. I recently needed to do some padding to emphasize my supervisor abilities/experience and whatnot.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry. I hope we all have more than one of each and that there is some overlap.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra. Check. Check (except I need a new one). And Check x3
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it. Sadly, not that I can think of. I mean not something I have that is tangible. I've paid for an expensive weekend of hotels and massages because I deserved it (and it was my bday). But nothing materialistic in that sense.
13. The belief that you deserve it. Again, should have learned that way before 30
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30. Yea...nope.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better. Maybe, yes, and what are the "other facets"??
By 30, you should know ...
2. How you feel about having kids. Now see here's the tricky part. While I do know how I feel about having kids I also don't know if there is (or should be) a "deadline" on knowing...just like there shouldn't be one on "have kids by ____ years old" and who is to say that my decision on whether to have kids (or not) won't change as time goes.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship. Check. Check. and Check (hopefully)
4. When to try harder and when to walk away. I think I've got this. Sometimes I worry I'm trying harder when I should walk away and have walked away when I should have tried harder.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next. Damn skippy.
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town. Secretary Hillary Rodham Clinton (for President 2016), Marie Gill (mother's side) and can't think of my paternal great grandmother's name at the moment, and no idea about the best tailor in town. :(
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to. Done.
8. Where to go -- be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat -- when your soul needs soothing. Yes. I have a few places.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents. Haha. Sadly yes, I do know this.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over. Very true. I wish others would learn this and move past it all.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love. Money - yes. Love - I don't know
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long. Haha. Very true.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally. Check. Check (I hope) and check (although it's often hard).
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault. I know this but it is often very hard. I don't like fighting and will (unforutnaley) often apologize for things that aren't my fault just to smooth things over.
15. Why they say life begins at 30. I'm excited to find out. Nine months to go!!