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Mr. New Jersey (Part 3: Falling Hard & Fast)
So if you have been following my blog (or have read parts 1 & 2 of this series) you would know I became (officially) single a few months back and have since rejoined the dating world and met a Mr New Jersey just over a month ago.
Well, about a few weeks ago I deleted my online dating profile. I decided to when I realized I hadn't checked the account (or used its profile search tool) for some while, and didn't feel the need or desire too.
Why bother when I had met someone who makes me smile ear to ear just thinking about him. When I get a text or instant message from him it makes my whole day. He shows interest in knowing me: my past and future, my likes and dislikes, and just gives me the biggest butterflies in my stomach.
He brought up the other day how much he wanted to come out to Portland to meet me in person but just didn't know when he could get away from work. So as an alternative I'm looking to go to him for a quick turn around weekend. (Note: it took the Ex nearly three years to get off his ass and come see me). I've never been to that part of the country; an while he lives IN New Jersey he works in, and lives just across the river from, NYC (someplace I've always wanted to visit). So we found two weekends that might work for both of us and I'm pricing plane tickets.
On more than one occasion he has lamented about how we don't live closer because he would love to "date" me and make me "his". Then this last Saturday we were just chatting, as I was cleaning the house for a family dinner. We were talking about my (hopefully) upcoming visit to see him, when he mentioned something along the same lines again. I, playfully, said something about how we'll just have to see how things go. Our conversation then quickly changed to LDRs and our past experiences with them. He said how he'd be willing to try one again "for the right girl". I told him how my last relationship was long distance and I learned (the hard way) what makes it work. He then told me how he falls hard for the right girl and is just a hopeless romantic (something else we both have in common).
Now I know my friends are going to read this, shake their head and be thoroughly disappointed I'm looking at another long distance relationship. But Mr. New Jersey and I have talked about how a LDR (not "ours") needs to have frequent visits to help make the relationship work. That's just one of the many things I learned needs to happen (or else) to make a relationship work long distance: frequent visits, consistent communication, and most importantly an "end plan"... but for now I just want to get to know Mr. New Jersey more and see what happens.
And really, in the end, if it doesn't work. If I get another slow fade or he is not at all what I expected. I got out of the cycle I was in with the Ex. I opened my heart to the possibility of another. And I'm moving forward with my life.
But for now I'm not jumping to an conclusions or skipping all the steps that make dating fun. But for now I freely admit that I'm crushing hard on my Mr. NJ. I fall hard and fast with the "right guy" and he certainly is no exception. He's something special in my opinion and according to him so am I.