Being Body Positivie
In the last few years it's been strongly tied (or should I say promoted) through the plus size community. Women (and men) saying enough is enough. They are happy with who they are and even going as far as saying they love their curves.
Campaigns and educational programs such as HAES (health at every size) sparked and were being promoted to show that being plus size doesn't mean you can't still be healthy.
However, and sadly in my opinion, somewhere along the lines this went from self-love/acceptance to anti-skinny.
Postings about "real women have curves" and statements like "give the girl a hamburger" started going viral on the internet and social media.
Recently though, and for those that follow me on Facebook or Twitter know that I've jumped on this band wagon, the message has started moving away from one body type being better (or prettier or sexier or hotter) than another. The message has moved to one of self acceptance, of self love and simply being BODY POSITIVE!
Positive of your body. My body. All bodies.
But the struggle isn't over. We all know that most men, women, boys and girls don't learn about body acceptance through blogs (such as this) or Facebook posts. They learn it from media. They learn it from their idols and movie stars.
Earlier today I posted (on FB) a Huffington Post article "Positive Body Image Quotes from Celebs". While some of them were very inspirational and embraced the idea of being body positive:
"I think that whatever size or shape body you have, it's important to embrace it and get down! The female body is something that's so beautiful. I wish women would be proud of their bodies and not diss other women for being proud of theirs!" - Christina Aguilera
"Girls of all kinds can be beautiful -- from the thin, plus-sized, short, very tall, ebony to porcelained skinned; the quirky, clumsy, shy, outgoing and all in between. It's not easy though because many people still put beauty into a confining, narrow box ...think outside of the box ...pledge that you will look in the mirror and find the unique beauty in you." - Tyra Banks
But the one that Huffington highlighted, the one that I have re-read a few times, was Kate Winslet. To me this isn't a statement of being body positive...yes, she is declaring acceptance of her body and saying she is proud of accepting who she is, but it reads more of mere tolerance.... being "tolerant" of your body is not the same as embracing, being positive and loving who you are:
“I have a crumble baby belly, boobs are worse for wear after two kids ... I'm doing all right. I'm 33. I don't look in the mirror and go, 'Oh, I look fantastic!' Of course I don't. Nobody is perfect. I just don't believe in perfection. But I do believe in saying, 'This is who I am and look at me not being perfect!' I'm proud of that."- Kate Winslet
They also started the slide show with Lady Gaga (whose music and self acceptance of individualism I love and admire) saying, "When I wake up in the morning, I feel just like any other insecure 24-year old girl. Then I say, 'You're Lady Gaga, you get up and walk the walk today." Which would be wonderful it if wasn't well known this Queen of Pop has also been quoted as saying:
"I think Adele is really talented, but being fat will only get you so far, sitting in a chair will get boring after the fourth video, you know? maybe if she danced her ass off like I do in every video, she wouldnt be as big as she is." - Lady Gaga interview in 2012
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.
We all need to speak out against body hatred, of putting one another down for not having the same body as this person or that person. Stop feeding into the media, the social stigmas of what is a "perfect body". We are all beautiful and until we can start being body positive ourselves the world will never follow suit.