Wednesday, January 30, 2013

WILW & OHP

It's Oh, How Pinteresting Wednesday but then it's also What I'm Lovin' Wednesday (a weekly post I've seen on a number of other bloggers pages)...and with how much I'm Lovin' getting ready for this weekend. I thought I'd combine the two.


Despite having woken up with a sore throat and stiff neck this morning (*shakes fist at family who got her sick*) I'm determined to not only still go down to SoCal this weekend but also to have an amazing time....NO MATTER WHAT!

I figure I can die of the plague after February 17th (when I'm done traveling).

So back to things I love:

I love my family (no matter how frustrated they make me at times)
I love that I have such a supportive team at work
I love my honey
I love that Anthony Bourdain has a new show
I love that I get to spend my 30th birthday with a dear friend of mine
I love that I get to combine Saturday's adventures with today's OH HOW PINTERESTING!


I will admit I went a bit pin-crazy today. Looking at things and places we're going this Saturday to celebrate my birthday. So instead of a (what would be a very) loooooooooooong post with a dozen pictures of places and things we're doing Saturday in LA. I thought I'd give you this collage instead:


1. Hollywood & Vine
2. Warner Bros Studio
3. Pinks
4. Griffith Park Observatory
5. Foot/hand prints at Grauman's Chinese Theatre
6. Hollywood Sign
7. Grauman's Chinese Theatre
8. Hollywood Squares

Sunday, January 27, 2013

TOGA! TOGA! TOGA! (eShakti Review)

In December I was emailed by a representative from eShakti Clothing - a clothing site I've actually talked about before here. They were offering me a free item from the website in return for (this) review. 

SCORE!

Not only does eShakti have ADORABLE women's clothing but they carry sizes 0-36! AND if that wasn't enough for only $8 you can "customize" the piece. 

Want a longer skirt?
No problem, there's an option for that. 

Would rather have thick straps instead of a halter top? 
Sure thing, there's an option for that. 

They ask your size, as well as your height! I'm only 5'1" and things that are supposed to be "below the knee" are typically floor length on me! Not with eShakti though. Below the knee really was below the knee!!

Anyway. I got the email from "Jennifer" and jumped on it! I got my BFF on iMessenger so she and I could browse the website together. There were so many items to choose from. 

Finally we narrowed it down to a "work dress", a toga styled "dressy dress" and a blouse. After a while of debate and reconsidering I went with the toga dress:


I ordered the dress just before Yule (December 21st) and while it didn't arrive in time for me to take it to New Year's Eve (it arrived while I was out of town on December 31st) I still was able to wear it to my birthday dinner last night with the family. 


So thoughts on the product:


  • The side zipper is one of those tiny (flimsy) ones that really don't do much good and I never end up using it anyways. Luckily the dress is stretchy enough I was able to just pull it up and over my head. 
  • The dress itself is a strapless number, with the slightly sticky rubber support along the inside - which is great. However, the "toga" piece (over the shoulder) is attached under the armpit and that's it. So you shimmy in and then have to drape the toga over. Which is fine, except I felt like as I moved the "shawl" (?) piece would move and suddenly one boob would be hanging out. But to prevent this from happening I tacked the shawl in place (under armpit and breast line) so it wouldn't go anywhere. 
  • The other alteration I had to make was the gathered shoulder part. This was actually what I loved the most (outside of the color). But the strap was so wide I'd have to have shoulders like a linebacker. All I did was tuck the ends up underneath and sew into place - I think I reduced the size of the strap by half. But now it's perfect. 
In the end I love the dress and am happy I picked this piece. I also am looking at their website to purchase another item - especially since they have a 30% sale going (on the entire store). I would totally recommend going and checking them out! It was worth every tiny stitch!




Friday, January 25, 2013

Leibster Award Take2 Part2

Here is part 2 of yesterday's Leibster Award blog. Today is answering The Nomad's questions, making my own questions and nominating others. So let's get going.


Now to The Nomads Questions*:

1.What's the scariest, as in uncomfortable, thing you've ever done? I'm not sure what the answer would be. I'm not a fan of public speaking but I do it all the time (small scale). I hate networking and chit-chatting when at conferences/conventions but I put my big girl panties on and suck it up. I've done "scary things" (such as facing phobias - heights, etc) but I've just done it. I'm not sure I can pin point one.

2.Do you know a celebrity or ever had a semi-personal experience with a celebrity? Ever play that game 6 degrees to Kevin Bacon? Where you name a actor and based on what movies they've been in and who they've worked with you can connect them to Kevin Bacon within six people? I can do that with myself (does that count?). Me --> My Uncle Glen (who was an extra in the movie the Doors and had lunch with) --> Val Kilmer (who was in True Romance with) --> Brad Pitt (who was in Sleepers with) --> KEVIN BACON. So I have a "Bacon number" of four (four degrees of separation). Haha. 




I also studied briefly one summer with a Buddhist teacher who was a direct disciple of Thich Nhat Hanh (the Buddhist spiritual leader). Other than that no connections.


3.How often do you clean your house? It's an ongoing process really. We do the dishes nightly, as the week goes along. With five cats we're always scooping cat pans and running a vacuum cause their hair is everywhere. But the bigger cleanings happen on the weekends. Sweeping, wiping down counters, etc. The once a month or so we'll go crazy and do the DEEP cleaning. 

4.What's your funniest/most embarrassing bathroom experience? It has to be your experience not your kiddos! (I saw this on another blog recently and loved it!) I feel like I'm failing at these questions. I don't have an embarrassing bathroom experience. Sure there are times when I needed to holler for toilet paper... but that's it. I think I might have been 8 or 9 when I walked in on a cousin of mine, but he was sitting down and it was just a split second so really whatever. Sorry folks.

5.Do you have an embarrassing intoxicated story? If so, what?! Again, not a whole lot of stories. Sorry. Although there was once in college when I got beyond drunk on homemade sangria... I was later told by a friend (who was snuggled on a couch with a cutie) that I sat down between them (cockblocking the action) and chatted them up. She was not happy with me but I don't remember any of it. 

Other than that my best friend, that I lived with in Oakland,  loves to remind me (and I do remember these instances) that when I get a little tipsy on wine I usually end up upside down on the couch (read: feet where your head goes and head where your feet goes). 

6.What's your favorite book? Asking me to pick my favorite book is like asking a parent to pick their favorite child!! I can't and won't do it. 

7.What's the craziest thing you've ever eaten? Oh gosh. Durian or Smoked razor clams? It's hard to pick.

8.How honestly do you care about the news and world events? I do. But sometimes it's hard to "keep up" only because it is so depressing. It's important to know what is happening in the world but for my own sanity and out-look-on-life I have to keep some distance. 

9.What's your secret meal when you have the house to yourself? Now if I told you it wouldn't be a secret anymore would it? Haha. Okay... as long as it's just between us. Peanut Butter and Jelly sandwich. There's just something comforting and innocent about it. LOVE pb&js.

10.Who hates you? (I've asked a lot of people this question and there is always some random kid from grade school that people are convinced hate them.) Nope. Not that I know of. I'm not saying "everyone loves me" but if there's someone out there who HATES me I don't know it. 

11.If all fear was dissolved, what would be the biggest change you'd make in your life? Probably pack up my belongings, and kitties, and move somewhere abroad. Travel and explore beyond the USA. Maybe for a year. Maybe for a few years. Just get some adventure stories under my belt. 

My Nominations for the Leibster Award:

I encourage you to go check out all these wonderful ladies and their blogs!! Ladies, don't forget the rules to the award game:

1. List 11 random facts about yourself
2. Answer the 11 questions your nominator posed for you on their blog & tag them in the post. 
3. Nominate 11 bloggers (with less than 200 followers) and comment on their blogs to let them know. 

Okay now for the questions I have you lovely nominated ladies. I pulled them from the Book of Questions (by Gregory Stock, Phd),  it is full of over 200 questions to poke, prod and dig into your brains.

Ms. Morgan's Questions:
1. Do you have any specific long-term goals? What is one and how do you plan on reaching it?
2. What are your most compulsive habits?
3. What do you value most in a relationship?
4. When did you last cry in front of another? 
5. If you could chose the manner of your death, what would it be?
6. Which would you prefer? To leave the country permanently or to never leave the state you currently are in?
7. What, if anything, is too serious to joke about?
8. Would you rather be overdressed or underdressed for a party?
9. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
10. You're invited to a friends for dinner, and you find a cockroach in the salad. What would you do?
11. When was the last time you sung to yourself? 

Have fun my lovelies and don't forget to connect to one another. 
Happy Blogging.

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Thursday, January 24, 2013

Liebster Award (Round 2)

So sometimes I feel like a bad blogger. I can't seem to be consistent. I have no real "theme". I'm a diligent follower but almost never comment. But then someone from the absys (in this case The Nomad Cooks) reaches out and makes me realize maybe I'm not such a bad blogger after all.

This last weekend I was nominated (for my 2nd time) for the Liebster Blogger Award. It's given to bloggers with under 200 followers but that those who do follow find something special about them. Awww (cue mushy music). ;)

Anyway here's how this works:

1. List 11 random facts about yourself (this is always the most challenging for me)
2. Answer the 11 questions your nominator posed for you on their blog & tag them in the post
3. Nominate 11 bloggers with less than 200 followers and comment on their blogs to let them know

So here we go!

11 Random Facts about Me:

1.  This is my 3rd blog (the other two have since either been "discontinued" or have morphed into this one)...the first was about being a 20something (morphed into this one) and the second was a food blog (that I just couldn't keep up with so I do that here now too).

2. I am currently co-chairing the 45th anniversary for my Alma mater. It's a "reunion" but for anyone who has ever graduated from the academic program I attended. So we're looking at a few thousand people. After all event planning for work isn't enough; I have to do it in my spare time too

3. I'm turning the big 30 on 2/2 and haven't been this excited for a birthday in a long time (if ever). I'm so ready to enter my 30s. Not that the 20s weren't good to me but as I've gotten older I'm more comfortable with who I am and what I want out of life. I can't wait to see what the future holds.

4. I have never traveled outside the continental United States. Even when living (born and raised) in San Diego I never traveled down to Mexico. Now that I'm in the PNW I think I want to head North and

5. My top dream travel spots, however, would be (1) Paris...there's just something about the architecture, food, culture and romance that draws me here. And (2) Thailand - I began studying Southeast Asia in college and am just drawn towards the beauty and tranquility that seems to linger here. I have known a few people to travel to Thailand (one who stayed) and I want to experience for myself the stories they bring back.

6. I have a strange obsession love for the Great Apes...chips, gorillas...but especially ORANGUTANS! Something about those gingers just makes me "ooh" and "aww". I can sit in front of their enclosure at the zoo for hours. Don't need to see any other animals really. I was saying I need to find an interactive habitat type place that I can sign up to see one up close (maybe for my 40th birthday).

7. I'm starting a 5 week film class soon. I haven't been "in school" in eight years and while this isn't for "credit" (I get a certificate) but it's a a nice way to step back into the "system" and try out online distant learning.

8. I am in no way a "sports" person but have been to a pro-basketball, minor league hockey, multiple pro-baseball and a colleague football bowl game....I much prefer going in person and becoming intoxicated by other's excitement (okay, yes the real beer doesn't hurt either).

9. For years I couldn't/wouldn't eat fish. My father worked on a fish farm for a brief while as I was growing up so we had fish for dinner multiple times a week. My mother says she learned to cook fish in so many ways. I just got tired of it. But then years later I was introduced to sushi and then slowly started trying new fish and different preparations. Now I love it and can't get enough at times. 

10.  I love Elvis - his music, his style, his sex appeal. If I had been alive at the time of his peak popularity I would have been one of those girls fainting and squealing at concerts. My grandmother was one of those women actually - we've said that the love of Elvis must skip a generation. Haha. When I went to Florida last year I made sure to take my picture in front of the Florida Theatre where his first indoor headline concert was held. 

11. I have a tattoo on my right ankle/calf of three stars. The green one for my mom, the blue on for my sister and the purple one for me. I want to expand it some and have smaller sparkles/stars put around them but for now I'm happy with my family cluster.

*Phew* That was longer than I expected. If you need to go take a bathroom break I'll understand....water...no? You're good? Okay well I need a break so I think we'll break this into 2 parts.

Today: Announcement and 11 facts.
Tomorrow: 11 questions and nominations.

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Oh! How Pinteresting....

I love Pinterest. It really is the best and worst thing created for someone who loves fashion, food, word play and DIY ideas (despite never doing them). I love to spend cold rainy lunch breaks (like today) and browse - sharing with friends, getting inspired. And the fact that The Vintage Apple has "Oh, How Pinteresting" Wednesday link ups is great! 


One of my new year's resolutions was to be more crafty (more often at least to the "never" I'm doing now). So when starting to browse Pinterest I thought I'd focus on the DIY sections (although I do have a yummy in the tummy recipe tossed in there too). But for now here are some GREAT ideas I found...not that I'll ever do them but you never know who else I might inspired. Haha. 

First here's the Yummy in the Tummy (really that's what the board is called it's pinned on). I'm a big fan of chocolate and peanut butter (Reese's are one of my favorites) as is my cousin. So I sent this her way immediately. I may need to make this soon. 
Originally posted here.
The next two I found are one's I probably won't ever do. The first is a way to organize your cords by coding them with decorate tape. Now while this is a great idea I don't really have so many devices and similar cords that I need to distinguish them. I do however, think this would be a great idea for anyone who has a household with multiples of the same device (phone/iPad/laptop/etc).

Originally posted here.
The next isn't going to happen any time soon because I don't really have a back yard to speak of or wooden lawn furniture.... but again it's a great idea!! I have been to other's homes where I feel I don't have somewhere to put my wine class without risking breaking their good glassware (no really I've been in this situation)... so having "built-in" notches is super smart!

Originally posted here.
Now this one is a keeper to remember (you know when the BF and I are actually able to do date nights in person and not thousands of miles apart....although he doesn't have a pick up but I'm sure we can do the same thing in his convertible. Haha. I love star gazing but I always get cold too quick. This is the perfect solution.

"Fill a truck bed full of pillows and blankets and drive to the
middle of nowhere to go star gazing."
Alright my darlings. Time to get back to the real world and not the I-wish-I-had-time world. Happy Pinning!

 

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Lets Talk Sex

Disclaimer: This is something that has been rattling around in my brain for a while. Something I've wanted to write about and just trying to figure the best way how. So this is my rambling, my ranting and my thinking out loud....for now. 

Warning: The following entry touches on politics and sexuality. Material and links may touch on a nerve, moral compass or tread on what you believe is "unspeakable". Please know my intention is not too start a fight but do know that I will be monitoring the comments and denying ones that are offensive or disrespectful of others.

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With the Presidential election over, the media has stopped highlighting and headlining the topic of Women's Reproductive Rights, no more op-eds ripping ignorant politicians about archaic views and media articles/statements about "frumpy" women in politics and attacking the Pro-Choice movement. Even the recent overturning of a California rape case, based on laws from the 1800s, got only an afternoon of news.

These comments... these laws... these "debates", that make my stomach turn in anger and disgust, isn't what this blog is about. 

Because in the end I believe it comes down to choice. We choose our political views....religious following...who we love and who we allow into our lives.We also choose (or at least I believe) what to do with our bodies.

How is it that through all these conversations of a reproduction, gender and choices we somehow tiptoe around the hub of the conversation:



True, we live in a world of soft core porn on HBO/Showtime, novels like 50 Shades of Grey and the common person becoming a celebrity through rag mags and bad choices...however, ask a friend if they have ever done (let alone enjoyed) BDSM? Anal? Role playing? Facials

They would look at you horrified, probably blush or tell you it's none of your damn business. 

It's okay to know these things about complete strangers, to blog about celebrities sex-capades, to Google Anne Hathaway's crotch shot, but we can't talk to those close to us about something as natural as sex.

There's the other side of the coin too. We not only can't/won't talk about sex with others but we also don't allow ourselves to "talk" about this with ourselves. Because something is considered "taboo" we close our ears and thoughts about trying something new. We turn away or deny enjoying something because others may think we're "sick"

When are we going to embrace sexuality?
When are we going to embrace our own sexuality?
When are we going to embrace others choices in their sexuality?

If we can't talk to one another - our friends, our partners - about sex and pleasure how are we supposed to talk about consent and safety?  

Things that were taboo once aren't any more, but despite what you think you "should" or "shouldn't" do, whether or not you think something is enjoyable or not... when will being open to talking health, safety and sexuality no longer be seen as taboo?

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Your Opinion Matters

Hello lovely followers what would you like to read more about over on the blog?

Food? Fashion? Love? Sex?

Let me know below.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Fun Friday Blog Hops

Since I'm at a HR training all day Friday and have a few seconds of free time now. I thought I'd make sure to let you all know about a Fun Friday blog hop happening over at The World As I see It and at Oh So Amelia

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Saturday, January 12, 2013

Celebration Giveaway!!

We're only three weeks away from my 30th birthday. Since I'm celebrating my birthday over three weekends I figured I'd celebrate with you by doing a CELEBRATION GIVEAWAY!!

This isn't just A giveaway... this is THREE giveaways in one! (Do you see a theme going here?) So let's get started with what I'm giving away and will discuss more details at the end. 

Giveaway #1
The first is a book I've been reading that is just too good not to share! "How To Be a Woman" by Caitlin Moran, may make some nervous with reclaiming the word feminism, but the reason I love Caitlin is because she has a way of telling her story, telling my story, telling OUR story and helping make women realize that feminism isn't a word to be frightened of but to embrace and reclaim.

"Any action a woman engages in from a spirit of joy, and within a similarly safe and joyous environment, falls within the city-walls of feminism. A girl has a right to dance how she wants, when her favourite record comes on.” ― Caitlin Moran, How to Be a Woman

Jenny Lawson raves about her (I didn't notice review on the back of the book until I was getting ready for this giveaway)...so if you love the Bloggess you know that she gives Caitlin a thumb up!


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Giveaway #2
For my readers who connect with me more on the getting dressed up and stepping out level. I have this beautiful cameo necklace on ribbon for you. I was given this necklace a few years ago and I've been meaning to put it on a longer ribbon (too short for me) and just never have. So instead of having it hang on  my wall for another year I thought I'd share it with my lovely followers. 





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Giveaway #3

Last but far from least is a block printed (original) reusable tote bag from fellow artist, blogger and my dear friend iz originals. It's perfect for books, taking to work, reusable grocery bag (that's the Portlander in me) and I do love supporting artists. 


She has a few prints with this same design on it and I got lucky enough to have iz love me enough to send me a print. Can't wait to put it up in my office.


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Because this is my birthday we're doing away with (most) the rules! Everyone and anyone is eligible to win (even if you've won a giveaway with me before, even if we know one another in real life, and even if you aren't a follower here on Blogger!)

Only Rule: I do ask that if you any (or all) of the giveaways you either email me at msmorgansrealitycheck@gmail.com with the best email to contact you at or you leave a comment below with preferred method (facebook, twitter, email). I will attempt to contact the winners on Sunday, February 3rd and will allow one week for response. Otherwise I'm going to select another winner. 

So have fun and nter often (if you tweet about the giveaway every day you can earn more points). Recommend and share with your friends (who knows maybe they'll regift the gift to you for being such a good friend).

Thursday, January 10, 2013

Birthday Plans

For those that have been following you know I've had some "mishaps" with my 30th birthday plans. For those that have missed the Vegas = Death situation you can catch up here.

Anyway, with the whole death thing came the "not knowing when I'd get my refund" game. And the fact that many of the people I had invited to come with weren't sure if they could actually come.  

*Enter pity-me music here*

So I pulled myself up (aka stopped pouting) and started making alternate plans and now I don't just have amazing birthDAY plans but I have plans for three weekends in a row to celebrate my turning the BIG 3-0!!

I figured what better excuse to cross off a restaurant from my Portland Bucket List than my birthday! So the weekend before my birthday I'm having dinner with friends and family here in Portland.We're going to a restaurant called Toro Bravo... Spanish food. Yum Yum. The same people own a place called Tasty n Sons, where I've gone for brunch in the past, so I'm excited to go to (as a coworker put it) the Mother Ship.

 Then during my birthday weekend I'll be flying down to my Mother Ship...Southern California that is. I'll be spending the weekend exploring Long Beach and Seal Beach, browsing craft fairs and indulging in delicious foods... all while accompanied by the pleasant company of a dear college friend, her husband and a possible special/secret guest (TBD).

And to wrap up my becoming a 30something I'm taking the train up to Seattle for the weekend (after my birthday) with my mother to see the Cirque du Soleil show Amaluna (75% female cast and loosely based on the Tempest). My mother doesn't think she's been to Seattle since she was a child so we're going to try and swing by Pike Place Market and the Seattle Art Museum

So despite my plans to spend my Dirty Thirty in Sin City being a bust. It looks like I'm going to have a blast and turning 30 in style!


*If you have suggestions for places in Long Beach or Seattle please feel free to share.




Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Shopping Cart Accident

As I mentioned in a posting earlier today, I'm home on a sick day trying to mend after an accident. Well.... it wasn't an automobile accident... it wasn't a work place accident.... I didn't slip and fall in the shower, slide on an icy sidewalk or fall down a flight of stairs... 

No, I lost a fight with a shopping cart. 

When I tell folks that I had a "shopping cart accident" they assume I mean shopping cart vs. shopping cart or that a shopping cart rolled away and hit my car.... no. No, it was an accident between my body and a shopping cart!!

The Saturday before New Years I was grocery shopping with my mother at WinCo. We had finished checking out and had a large cart full of groceries and I was standing near about six or seven feet from the Exit door, waiting for my mother to park her cart, when... 

A woman, with a full shopping cart of her own, slammed into my backside. For anyone who knows anything about physics the force of her cart didn't budge mine.... it didn't cause heat... it caused my body to be sandwiched and whiplash from my toes up through my head like jello. 

She pulled back and pulled her cart along side me. She didn't say a word, stood and stared at me. My mother is the one who asked if I was okay.... I told her no. Then the broad just walked out of the store!!!

In reality I know that she had four children with her, the story I created in my head was that she was yelling at one and not watching where I was going. But to not ask if I was okay, or to even apologize, what kind of person does that?!

So now I've been to the urgent care (and was given muscle relaxer), been to the chiropractor and most likely will go again next Monday where I'll also see a LMT and finally I think I may need to start seeing my acupuncturist more regularly for this matter. 

When I went to the chiropractor, this last Monday, and described what happened he sat stunned with a look of disbelief. He laughed and said that I certainly made his top list of odd injuries (and had just out did the woman who came in with a knitting injury). So he helped open my back up and gave me exercises, but in the end it is still 

Shopping Cart: 1          Morgan: 0


Pinterest Wednesday

I'm home today on a sick day - my neck, head and back are still killing me from the accident I was in two weeks ago* - so what better to do than to join in on Pinterest Wednesday.

Recently I was approached be eShakti to review their products** and it was the hardest thing to do (to pick only one item). Dress after skirt after shirt after jacket....so gorgeous. So I browsed their Pinterest account today..... *sigh* ..... big mistake. Now there are even more pieces I want.
This blue is phenomenal... and the combination between vintage
and military lines just make this jacket amazing. 
The neckline is wonderful but I think I'd need a bit more sleeves.
I might need to own this jacket. The details and collar are fabulous. So in love. 

This would be wonderful for work or a nice dinner out. I love the ruffles and collar. 
I love the red with black buttons. Fantastic for a day out in spring or summer
.... actually I have a cardigan that would go nice with it for autumn also. 

If you haven't checked them out before you really should. They have clothes from size 0-30 and you can customize the pieces (sleeves, length, collars, etc).
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*I'll be blogging about this next. It's too amusing of a story to not share.
**I ended up picking out a gorgeous burgundy toga style dress. I plan on wearing it for my birthday; so you'll be able to see and read the review in a few weeks.


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Saturday, January 5, 2013

Resolutions


I've never really been one for New Year's resolutions. Most of the time I can't figure out why they can't just be made all year long. What is it about adding "New Year's" to it that makes these self proclamations suddenly so much more powerful. They obviously don't (really) have more effect on the likelihood of them being kept; how many people do I know that say they're going to quit smoking, drinking, eating sugar or lose weight and then before Ground Hog's day has come and gone they're right back to their old habits. 

HOWEVER, with only 28 days left before I step into the next phase of my life ... my thirties... I took some time to try and think about what is it in my life I wish I was doing more/less of. Why not use the cleansing of the new year to start new habits? To say good-bye to 2012 and good-bye to tendencies I've wanted to rid myself of for some time now. 

So, for the first time in I'm not sure how many years, I've made some New Years resolutions:

1. Read More. I was raised in a house full of books and I have quite the collection of books myself. Being read a bed time story was a ritual for my mother and us girls growing up, something her mother did with her and I plan to do with my children. For years I would read any opportunity I could - on the bus, during lunch, before bed, etc. 

However, this last year with added responsibilities at work and additional stresses at home I just found myself reading less and less... to be honest I can't even the last book I read. So as part of my resolution it's not only to start picking up a book more or time to turn off the electronics and open a book but to focus more of my spare time on myself. 

Over New Year's Eve weekend I purchased a book "How To Be a Woman" by Caitlin Moran; so far I've read at least one chapter a day. Not sure how well that momentum will keep up but for now I'm trying. 

2. Start Doing Art Again. Art has always been my release valve - collage and paint mostly. Then when my sister and her boyfriend moved into our living room my artistic path had to move to something that didn't need to take up too much space - photography. While I do truly enjoy and think I've improved on my photography skills I miss being covered in paint and sticky with glue!


Now that the "roommates" have moved out maybe I'll be able to spread out and tackle my art once again. It goes very hand in hand with the "read more". I need outlets for my stress, emotions and just time to myself. 

3. No Drama! Somehow at some point in my life I became the "dependable" one, the one with her "shit together".... somehow at some point in my life I because the one to keep dates straight, to organize the family, to play nice and act diplomatically not matter the drama or terrible mess the rest of life brought to my doorstep. Unfortunately I'm also the one who keeps her stress, anxiety and frustrations with life bottled up deep inside until I feel like I'm going to burst.

So, to round out my resolutions of self care I am including self preservation. No longer will I allow others toxic relationships invade my space. No longer will I bend over backwards to hand-hold adults who need to just grow up and pull themselves up by their own bootstraps. I'm threw looking after everyone else first and myself last. I will no longer allow others drama to poison me. 

That's it. Those are my 2013 New Year's resolutions. Hopefully easy enough to continue from month to month, year to year. 

We shall see. 

What about you? Any resolutions?