That may sound odd to some, and for other's there is an echoing "Hallelujah!". I'm in the category of doing things for and by yourself on occasion. Whether it's treating yourself to a movie, getting a reservation at the new hot brunch local or spending a quiet afternoon meditating on life in a garden - date yourself.
Ru Paul says, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?"
It's true. It took me years to find some true-self love. Not that I spent years of my life hating myself. I was lucky enough to be raised by a family full of love, had a good high school experience and made life long friends in college.
But it wasn't until years later that I started on a path of true self-love. Being happy in my skin, happy with my accomplishments, actively trying to balance my care for others with the care for myself.
I do believe that it is through this self-love work that I have everything I do today. I have a BF that I adore and who adores me, a job that I feel is contributing to the greater society, family who enjoys being together (as I type this I'm sitting out on the back porch with my mother - not speaking just "hanging out").
Occasionally I still need to step away from all that I have and allow "me time". So this past Summer Solstice, I got off work and headed to the Chinese gardens in downtown. I spent (easily) three hours walking the paths, sitting and just emptying my mind, treating myself to a cup of Holy Basil iced tea and steamed boa.
And for no other reason that a Me Date. Give it a try. I promise it will change your life.